Wedding Fever
In the last month, I have attended 2 weddings of a couple who were both from SFC. Faye & Derick got married last 24 June and Christine & JP last 9 July. Both couples met at SFC and their relationship from courtship to engagement were witnessed by the SFC community. It really is true that even though you’re 2 different people, you can grow together because that’s what true love does. It moulds you into one because inevitably you’ll be blessed as a union upon the proclamation of your marriage vows. Attending and participating in these weddings, I cannot help but compare it also to my wedding. Essentially, what I found is people are different and they value different things. Couples want their wedding to be as unique from everyone else’s to suit their identity and personality. I guess this is what makes you consider your wedding most special. I will share with you what remained in my heart and mind with the 2 weddings I attended.
Faye & Derick (24 June)
It was an intimate wedding. Most of the guests were close friends of the couple and in one way or another was a participant in the wedding. When the bride said her speech, what struck me was that the celebration of their wedding was a celebration of love. Love, not only by the couple but also love shown by the guests who shared their talent, time and effort to be a part of the memorable event. Being the reception MC and in the ceremony’s choir, it’s true that you remember the event more. Also the father of the bride said to always remember the Corinthians passage about love. If you want a strong loving relationship replace the love with your name (ie. Love is patient to Dixie is patient, Dixie is kind, Dixie does not boast, etc).
JP & Christine (9 July)
I don’t know how to describe this wedding in one word. I felt many emotions attending this affair. I felt anxious, excitement, joy and reflection.
Anxious because when I woke up that morning I did not have any outfit for the wedding. So Kevin & I went shopping. By the time we got home, we had to rehearse our songs (From this moment & The Prayer) for the reception but the back up CD for the former song that the groom gave us did not have anything on it. My hubby wanted to put his song "the prayer" 2 semi-tones down so he could deliver it well. So he aggressively called my brother and anyone he knew who could do it. Because of this we were running late. Thus, my anxiety. During reception,the bride said something like this: I will only be a good mother and a wife because my mother was a good mother and wife. This touched her parents and finally showed their emotion. Being an only daughter it must have been so hard for them to let go of a child they nurtured for more than 2 decades. I can relate to that!
On the last note, I just want to share with you that since I got married as well, I realised the value of my parents in my life. I was always one who was (and still is) headstrong, sometimes disobedient to my parents in my younger days. Little did I know that what I rebelled against was that they only wanted what’s best for me. I guess when you are anticipating to have your own child, it will be the same. Also, your relationship with your parents will always be unconditional. Sometimes in a romantic relationship, it’s so hard not to set conditions just because life will seem unfair if things don’t go YOUR way. But slowly, I’m learning to exercise unconditional love towards my husband. First learning to forgive is the key to a harmonious marriage. When you start living together, everything comes out so always be ready to accept the flaws and shortcomings of your better (sometimes bitter) half! It’s only in this that you will grow to maturity and become a better person each day. Because each day, you become more patient, more tolerant, more respectful, more accepting, etc.
